凱文·凱利的 103 條人生建議（寫於2022年4月28日）
原文出處：The Technium: 103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known (kk.org)
誰是凱文·凱利？
凱文·凱利 (Kevin Kelly)，簡稱KK。KK在中國互聯⽹界算是⾮常出名了，其《失控》⼏乎是產品經理從業者必讀書。⽼爺⼦這幾年過生日那天都要寫一張清單，在 68 歲⽣⽇的時候寫了 《給年輕⼈的 68 條建議》，69 歲⼜寫了《給年輕⼈的 99 條建議》，今年（2022年）70歲時發表了《我希望我年輕時就知道的103條建議》。
01
• About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.
• 大約99%的時間，正確的時間就是現在。
02
• No one is as impressed with your possessions as you are.
•沒有人像你一樣對你的財產印象深刻。
03
• Dont ever work for someone you dont want to become.
• 永遠不要為你不想成為的人工作。
04
• Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you.
• 培養12個愛你的人，因為他們的價值超過1200萬喜歡你的人。
05
• Don't keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes.
• 不要一直犯相同的錯誤；嘗試新的錯誤。
06
• If you stop to listen to a musician or street performer for more than a minute, you owe them a dollar.
•如果你不停下一分鐘，來聽聽音樂家或街頭表演者的演奏，你就欠他們一塊錢。
07
• Anything you say before the word "but" does not count.
•你在"但是"字之前說的任何話都不算數。
08
• When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.
當你寬恕別人時，他們可能不會注意到，但你會被療愈。寬恕不是我們為他人做的事；而是送給我們自己的禮物。
09
• Courtesy costs nothing. Lower the toilet seat after use. Let the people in the elevator exit before you enter. Return shopping carts to their designated areas. When you borrow something, return it better shape (filled up, cleaned) than when you got it.
• 禮貌不花錢。使用後，放下馬桶座墊。在你進電梯前，先讓裡面的人出來。將購物車退回指定區域。當你借還東西時，將它恢復（填滿，清理）成比你拿到的時候更好。
10
• Whenever there is an argument between two sides, find the third side.
• 每當雙方發生爭執時，找到協力廠商。
11
• Efficiency is highly overrated; Goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic requires a good rest ethic.
• 效率被高度高估；休息的被嚴重低估了。定期安排的安息日，休假，假期，休息，漫無目的的散步和休假對於任何類型的頂級表現都是必不可少的。最好的職業道德需要良好的休息道德。
12
• When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers.
當你領導時，你真正的工作是創造更多的領導者，而不是更多的追隨者。
13
• Criticize in private, praise in public.
• 私下批評，公開表揚。
14
• Life lessons will be presented to you in the order they are needed. Everything you need to master the lesson is within you. Once you have truly learned a lesson, you will be presented with the next one. If you are alive, that means you still have lessons to learn.
•生活將按照需要的順序呈現給您。掌握這門課所需的一切都在你之內。一旦你真正學到了一個教訓，你就會得到下一個。如果你還活著，這意味著你仍然有許多教訓要學。
15
• It is the duty of a student to get everything out of a teacher, and the duty of a teacher to get everything out of a student.
• 學生有責任從老師那裡得到一切，而從學生那裡得到一切是老師的責任。
16
• If winning becomes too important in a game, change the rules to make it more fun. Changing rules can become the new game.
• 如果獲勝在遊戲中變得太重要，請更改規則讓它變得更有趣。改變規則成為一場新遊戲。
17
• Ask funders for money, and they'll give you advice; but ask for advice and they'll give you money.
•向資助者要錢，他們會給你建議；但尋求建議，他們會給你錢。
18
• Productivity is often a distraction. Don't aim for better ways to get through your tasks as quickly as possible, rather aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing.
• 生產力往往會分散注意力。不要以更好的方式儘快完成任務為目標，而是要瞄準你永遠不想停止做的更好的任務。
19
• Immediately pay what you owe to vendors, workers, contractors. They will go out of their way to work with you first next time.
•不要拖延供應商、工人、承包商的欠款。下次他們就會全力與你合作。
20
• The biggest lie we tell ourselves is "I don't need to write this down because I will remember it."
• 好記性不如爛筆頭。
21
• Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.
• 有意識的成長，是以你願意進行多少次不舒服的對話來衡量的。
22
• Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong.
• 自信地說話，仿佛你是對的，仔細地聆聽，就像你是錯的。
23
• Handy measure: the distance between your fingertips of your outstretched arms at shoulder level is your height.
•方便的措施：在肩膀水準上伸出的手臂的指尖之間的距離就是您的身高。
24
• The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally.
• 持續比量更重要。沒有什麼比每天做的小事更重要，這比你偶爾做的事情更重要。
25
• Making art is not selfish; it's for the rest of us. If you don't do your thing, you are cheating us.
•藝術創作不是自私的;這是為了我們其他人。如果你不做你的事情，你就是在欺騙我們。
26
• Never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Let her tell you if she is.
永遠不要問女人是否懷孕。讓她告訴你她是否是。
27
• Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.
你需要三種能力：在成功之前不放棄的能力，放棄不會成功的東西的能力，以及信任他人説明你分辨前兩者。
28
• When public speaking, pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important, and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details.
• 公開演講時，請經常停頓。在你以新的方式說某事之前暫停，在你說出你認為重要的事情之後暫停，暫停一下，讓聽眾吸收細節。
29
• There is no such thing as being "on time." You are either late or you are early. Your choice.
• 沒有"準時"這件事。要麼遲到，要麼早到。全憑你的選擇。
30
• Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.
可以問問任何你欽佩的人：他們幸運的成就必都發生在偏離主要目標的彎道上。擁抱彎路。生活對任何人來說都不是一條直線。
31
• The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you.
•在互聯網上獲得正確答案的最佳方法是發佈明顯錯誤的答案並等待某人糾正你。
32
• You'll get 10x better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals.
• 獎勵良好的行為，而不是懲罰不良的行為，你將會得到好10倍的結果，特別是在兒童和動物身上。
33
• Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an email as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read.
•花費與郵件內容本身一樣多的時間來打磨電子郵件的主題，因為主題通常是人們閱讀的唯一內容。
34
• Don't wait for the storm to pass; dance in the rain.
• 不要等到暴風雨過去；在雨中跳舞。
35
• When checking references for a job applicant, employers may be reluctant or prohibited from saying anything negative, so leave or send a message that says, "Get back to me if you highly recommend this applicant as super great." If they don't reply take that as a negative.
•在檢查求職者的推薦信時，雇主可能不願意或被禁止說任何負面的話，所以請留下或發送一條消息，上面寫著："如果你強烈推薦這個求職者超級棒，請回復我。如果他們不回答，就把它當作否定。
36
• Use a password manager: Safer, easier, better.
•使用密碼管理員：更安全，更輕鬆，更好。
37
• Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore.
• 受教育的一半技能是學習你可以忽略什麼。
38
• The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary.
• 一個荒謬的、雄心勃勃的目標的優點是，它設定了非常高的標準，所以即使在失敗的情況下，也可能是普通人的成功。
39
• A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.
瞭解自己的一個好方法是認真反思你在別人身上發現的惱人的每一件事。
40
• Keep all your things visible in a hotel room, not in drawers, and all gathered into one spot. That way you'll never leave anything behind. If you need to have something like a charger off to the side, place a couple of other large items next to it, because you are less likely to leave 3 items behind than just one.
• 將所有物品都放在酒店房間內可見，而不是在抽屜裡，並且全部聚集在一個地方。這樣你永遠不會留下任何東西。如果您需要將充電器之類的東西放在一邊，請在旁邊放置一些其他大物品，因為您不太可能留下3件物品而不是一件。
41
• Denying or deflecting a compliment is rude. Accept it with thanks, even if you believe it is not deserved.
• 否認或轉移讚美是不禮貌的。帶著感謝接受它，即使你認為自己不配得。
42
• Always read the plaque next to the monument.
•始終閱讀紀念碑旁邊的牌匾。
43
• When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things that only you — with your unique talents and experience — can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your duty to work on things that only you can do.
當你取得了一些成功時，冒名頂替者的感覺可能是真實的。我在愚弄誰？但是，當你創造了只有你自己——憑藉你獨特的才能和經驗——才能做到的事情時，那麼你絕對不是一個冒名頂替者。你是受命者。你有責任做只有你能做的事。
44
• What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.
• 你在糟糕的日子裡做了什麼比你在好日子裡做了什麼更重要。
45
• Make stuff that is good for people to have.
•製作對人們有好處的東西。
46
• When you open paint, even a tiny bit, it will always find its way to your clothes no matter how careful you are. Dress accordingly.
•當你打開油漆時，即使是很小一點點，無論你多麼小心，它總會沾到衣服上。請著適當的服裝。
47
• To keep young kids behaving on a car road trip, have a bag of their favorite candy and throw a piece out the window each time they misbehave.
•為了讓年幼的孩子在汽車公路旅行中保持行為，請帶上一袋他們最喜歡的糖果，並在每次行為不端時扔出窗外。
48
• You cannot get smart people to work extremely hard just for money.
•你不能讓聰明的人為了錢而非常努力地工作。
49
• When you don't know how much to pay someone for a particular task, ask them "what would be fair" and their answer usually is.
當你不知道為某項特定任務付給某人多少錢時，問他們"什麼是公平的"，他們的答案通常是。
50
• 90% of everything is crap. If you think you don't like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap.
•90%的一切都是廢話。如果你認為你不喜歡歌劇，浪漫小說，TikTok，鄉村音樂，素食，NFT，請繼續嘗試看看你是否能找到10%不是廢話。
51
• You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you.
• 人們評判你的標準取決於你如何善待那些對你豪無益處的人。
52
• We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes.
我們往往會高估我們一天能做的事情，而低估我們十年能取得的成就。 如果你給它十年，奇跡是可以達成的。 長期每天進步一點點，甚至可以克服大錯誤。
53
• Thank a teacher who changed your life.
• 感謝改變你一生的老師。
54
• You can't reason someone out of a notion that they didn't reason themselves into.
• 秀才遇到兵，有理說不清。（你無法說服一個人，如果他們沒有說服自己。）
55
• Your best job will be one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact only apply to jobs you are unqualified for.
• 你最好的工作將是一份你無法勝任的工作，因為它讓你成長。事實上，只適用於你無法勝任的工作。
56
• Buy used books. They have the same words as the new ones. Also libraries.
•購買二手書。它們與新書有相同的內容。還有圖書館。
57
• You can be whatever you want, so be the person who ends meetings early.
• 你可以成為任何你想成為的人，所以成為那個提前結束會議的人。
58
• A wise man said, "Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, "Is it true?" At the second gate ask, "Is it necessary?" At the third gate ask, "Is it kind?"
• 一位智者說："在你說話之前，讓你的話通過三道門。在第一個門口，問問自己，「這是真的嗎？」在第二個門問：「有必要嗎？」在第三個門問：「是善良的嗎？」
59
• Take the stairs.
•走樓梯。
60
• What you actually pay for something is at least twice the listed price because of the energy, time, money needed to set it up, learn, maintain, repair, and dispose of at the end. Not all prices appear on labels. Actual costs are 2x listed prices.
•您實際為某物支付的費用至少是標價的兩倍，因為安裝、學習、維護、維修和處置所需的精力、時間、金錢。並非所有價格都顯示在標籤上。實際成本是所列價格的 2 倍。
61
• When you arrive at your room in a hotel, locate the emergency exits. It only takes a minute.
•當您到達酒店的房間時，找到緊急出口。只需一分鐘。
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• The only productive way to answer "what should I do now?" is to first tackle the question of "who should I become?"
回答"我現在應該做什麼？"的唯一有效方法是首先解決"我應該成為誰"的問題。
63
• Average returns sustained over an above-average period of time yield extraordinary results. Buy and hold.
• 相對長期的持有平均收益率，會產出驚人的回報。買入並持有。
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• It's thrilling to be extremely polite to rude strangers.
•對粗魯的陌生人特別有禮貌是令人興奮的。
65
• It's possible that a not-so smart person, who can communicate well, can do much better than a super smart person who can't communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence.
• 一個不那麼聰明的人，如果能很好地溝通，就有可能比一個不能溝通的超級聰明人做得更好。這是個好消息，因為提高你的溝通技巧比提高你的智力要容易得多。
66
• Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.
• 偶爾被欺騙是信任的小代價，當你信任他人時，人們通常對你極好。
67
• Art is whatever you can get away with.
•藝術是最佳的避風港。
68
• For the best results with your children, spend only half the money you think you should, but double the time with them.
• 獲得最佳的親子關係，花費是你以為的一半，時間卻是兩倍。
69
• Purchase the most recent tourist guidebook to your home town or region. You'll learn a lot by playing the tourist once a year.
•購買你的家鄉或地區的最新旅遊指南。通過每年扮演一次遊客，你會學到很多東西。
70
• Don't wait in line to eat something famous. It is rarely worth the wait.
• 別花時間在排隊美食上，很少值得等待。
71
• To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, move them onto an abysmally slow internet connection. Observe.
• 為了迅速揭露剛認識的人的真實性格，改到速度極慢的互聯網上與之連結。觀察。
72
• Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird.
• 大眾成功的秘訣：做一些怪異的事情。把特異變成一種習慣。
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• Be a pro. Back up your back up. Have at least one physical backup and one backup in the cloud. Have more than one of each. How much would you pay to retrieve all your data, photos, notes, if you lost them? Backups are cheap compared to regrets.
• 成為專業人士。備份你的備份。至少有一個物理備份和一個雲端備份。每個檔案都有多個備份。如果你丟失了所有資料、照片、筆記，你要付多少錢來救回它們？與後悔相比，備份很便宜。
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• Don't believe everything you think you believe.
• 別相信你以為你相信的一切。
75
• To signal an emergency, use the rule of three; 3 shouts, 3 horn blasts, or 3 whistles.
• 緊急情況示警，請使用三的法則；吶喊3次，鳴喇叭3次，或吹哨聲3次。
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• At a restaurant do you order what you know is great, or do you try something new? Do you make what you know will sell or try something new? Do you keep dating new folks or try to commit to someone you already met? The optimal balance for exploring new things vs exploiting them once found is: 1/3. Spend 1/3 of your time on exploring and 2/3 time on deepening. It is harder to devote time to exploring as you age because it seems unproductive, but aim for 1/3.
• 在餐廳用餐時，你會點你愛吃的，還是會嘗試新東西？你會做好賣的東西，還是嘗試新事物？你會持續交新朋友，還是固定和老朋友來往？探索新事物與善用已知事物的最佳平衡是：1/3。花1/3的時間在探索上，花2/3的時間在深化上。隨著年齡的增長，很難專注於探索，因為它似乎不太有效率，但目標是1/3。
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• Actual great opportunities do not have "Great Opportunities" in the subject line.
• 真正的好機會並不會在門上掛著"好機會"的招牌。
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• When introduced to someone make eye contact and count to 4. You'll both remember each other.
• 當你被引薦給某人時，進行眼神交流並數到4。你們倆都會記得對方。
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• Take note if you find yourself wondering "Where is my good knife? Or, where is my good pen?" That means you have bad ones. Get rid of those.
•請注意，如果你發現自己在想"我的好刀在哪裡？或者，我的好筆在哪裡？這意味著你有壞的。丟掉那些。
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• When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make "explaining the problem" part of your troubleshooting process.
•當你遇到困難時，向別人解釋你的問題。通常，單單列出問題就會帶出解決方案。將「解釋問題」作為故障排除過程的一部分。
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• When buying a garden hose, an extension cord, or a ladder, get one substantially longer than you think you need. It'll be the right size.
•購買花園水管、延長線或梯子時，請購買比你認為需要的還長得多的水管。它將是正確的大小。
82
• Don't bother fighting the old; just build the new.
• 別費勁與舊的鬥爭；只去建立新的。
83
• Your group can achieve great things way beyond your means simply by showing people that they are appreciated.
• 肯定他人的付出，你的團隊就可以取得超出你能力範圍的偉大成就。
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• When someone tells you about the peak year of human history, the period of time when things were good before things went downhill, it will always be the years of when they were 10 years old — which is the peak of any human's existence.
• 當有人告訴你人類歷史的巔峰之年，也就是在走下坡路之前，好事發生的一段時間，那將永遠是他們10歲的時候——這是任何人類存在的巔峰時期。
85
• You are as big as the things that make you angry.
• 你和那些讓你生氣的事情一樣"偉大"。
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• When speaking to an audience it's better to fix your gaze on a few people than to "spray" your gaze across the room. Your eyes telegraph to others whether you really believe what you are saying.
• 在與聽眾交談時，最好將目光集中在幾個人身上，而不是將目光「掃視」整個房間。你的眼睛向別人傳達你是否真的相信你所說的話。
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• Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Don't focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout.
• 習慣遠比靈感更可靠。通過養成習慣來獲得進步。不要專注于練成六塊肌。專注于成為那個從不曾錯過鍛煉的人。
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• When negotiating, don't aim for a bigger piece of the pie; aim to create a bigger pie.
• 在談判時，不要把目標放在取得一塊較大的餅上；而是創造更大的餅。
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• If you repeated what you did today 365 more times will you be where you want to be next year?
如果你重複你今天所做的事情365次，你會到達明年你想去的地方嗎？
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• You see only 2% of another person, and they see only 2% of you. Attune yourselves to the hidden 98%.
• 你只看到另一個人的2%，而他們也只看到你的2%。讓自己習慣於隱藏的98%。
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• Your time and space are limited. Remove, give away, throw out things in your life that don't spark joy any longer in order to make room for those that do.
• 你的時間和空間有限。斷舍離那些生活中不再給你喜悅的東西，以便騰出空間（給可以為你帶來喜悅的東西）。
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• Our descendants will achieve things that will amaze us, yet a portion of what they will create could have been made with today's materials and tools if we had had the imagination. Think bigger.
• 我們的後代將實現令我們驚歎的事情，但如果我們有想像力，他們將要創造的一部分東西本可以用今天的材料和工具製成。想得更遠大。
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• For a great payoff be especially curious about the things you are not interested in.
• 為了獲得豐厚的回報，請對你不感興趣的事情特別好奇。
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• Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you'll arrive at where you want to go.
• 專注於方向，而不是目的地。沒人知道自己的命運。但保持正確的方向，你就會到達你想去的地方。
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• Every breakthrough is at first laughable and ridiculous. In fact if it did not start out laughable and ridiculous, it is not a breakthrough.
• 每一個重大突破起初都是可笑和荒謬的。事實上，如果它一開始並不可笑和荒謬，那就不叫重大突破了。
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• If you loan someone $20 and you never see them again because they are avoiding paying you back, that makes it worth $20.
如果你借給某人20美元，你就再也見不到他們了，因為他們逃避還你錢，那麼它就只值20美元。
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• Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end.
• 模仿他人是一個很好的開始方式。模仿自己則是一種令人失望的結束方式。
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• The best time to negotiate your salary for a new job is the moment AFTER they say they want you, and not before. Then it becomes a game of chicken for each side to name an amount first, but it is to your advantage to get them to give a number before you do.
• 為新工作談薪水的最佳時機是在他們說他們想要你的那一刻之後，而不是之前。然後，率先說出金額就變成了一場雙方的懦夫博弈，但是讓對方先說出數字是對你有利的。
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• Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them.
• 與其在你的生活中避免意外，不如直接對準它們。
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• Don't purchase extra insurance if you are renting a car with a credit card.
•如果你用信用卡租車，請不要購買額外的保險。
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• If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself your conclusions will not be predictable.
如果你對一個主題的看法可以從你對另一個主題的觀點中預測出來，那麼你可能處於一種意識形態的控制之下。當你真正為自己著想時，你的結論將是不可預測的。
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• Aim to die broke. Give to your beneficiaries before you die; it's more fun and useful. Spend it all. Your last check should go to the funeral home and it should bounce.
• 目標是破產。 在你死之前給你的受益人； 它更有趣，更有用。 全部花掉。 你的最後一張支票應該是給殯儀館的，而它應該被退票。
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• The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.
• 防止變老的主要辦法是保持驚訝。
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